Communication can easily be misinterpreted ranging from facial expressions, body gestures, hand movement, phone conversations, emails, social networking, etc.. Today, I am concentrating on the largest social networking site in the world, Facebook.
The pyramid effect of ones friends list can truly be an amazing experience. Meeting new people, making new friends, and reconnecting with lost friends or family. There is a flaw in this social place, which could damage relationships forever! This defect I am talking about is left on the receiving end of the message. Just because someone can read does not mean that they interpreted the words the actual way they were meant to be received.
A perfect example, "Can you hear me now"? This one liner can be in fact understood in many different ways such as: Do your ears hear the sound of my voice, Am I speaking clearly for understanding, kind of yelling to get a point across, comically, and so many more versions.
If I were to post a message which read, "I am under the weather today", how would you receive those words? When you do not see the face behind the message you cannot be for sure what they are trying to communicate and it is human nature to go straight into a my mode, if you will. A place where we use our own understanding on the words we are reading.
This my mode, can cause one to cancel their friendship, start a Facebook war, become emotional, or dramatically respond. I am sure you get my drift.
I am posting this from my own personal recent experience, so I wanted to share how it all went down for you!
One of my friends has had a year full of tramatic experiences and being the encourager that I am, I thought I should lift her spirit and give her some food for thought, as well as, food for the soul. So, I posted on her facebook page.
Nothing was ever said to me and a week has gone by. Now something else happened and boom she laid in on me. Told me I did not know her, cursed me in the worst way and truly hurt my feelings. She stated that I posted on Facebook a post that would undermine her character in the worst way. She even told me to read it after I repeatedly told her she should know me better than that!
Since that text message break up, I have removed her and any of her friends on my friends list. I am also, very apprehensive as to ever post another encouraging word to anyone!
Be very careful of what you say when people cannot see your face or they have no idea of who and how you are!
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